{"id":653,"date":"2024-10-19T11:28:03","date_gmt":"2024-10-19T11:28:03","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/seksulogisch.nl\/?p=653"},"modified":"2025-04-28T08:10:03","modified_gmt":"2025-04-28T08:10:03","slug":"een-beter-seksleven-begint-bij-jezelf","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/seksulogisch.nl\/en\/blog\/een-beter-seksleven-begint-bij-jezelf\/","title":{"rendered":"A Better Sex Life Starts with You"},"content":{"rendered":"

When we talk about our sex lives\u2014 if we even talk about it at all,<\/i><\/a>, but that\u2019s beside the point\u2014we tend to immediately think of sex with others. What we often forget is that, for many of us, most of our sexual experiences are with ourselves. Of course, that\u2019s not the case for everyone; some people never masturbate, and that\u2019s perfectly fine. It\u2019s your own choice. But sometimes, it stems from shame or imposed norms around sex and masturbation, and that\u2019s a pity.<\/p>

But let\u2019s get back to the importance of masturbation, because it\u2019s definitely there. Think of it like running: partner sex may be the big race you\u2019re training for, but masturbation is your daily workout. It\u2019s not just preparation for that race, it\u2019s often where you first discovered your love for running, and where you\u2019ve learned the limits of what your body can do.<\/p>

\"Too often, we think that sex is only good when the other person knows exactly what we want at every moment.\"<\/p><\/blockquote>

Masturbation has many benefits for both your health and your sex life in general. Here are a few reasons why a better sex life starts with masturbation.<\/p>

Get to Know Your Own Body<\/b><\/b><\/h2>

Too often, we think that sex is only good when the other person knows exactly what we want at every moment. This expectation of mind-reading often leads to disappointment. Communicating what you enjoy benefits both partners. It leads to a more fulfilling sex life and improves communication overall.<\/p>

How can someone else know what you like if you don\u2019t even know yourself? This is where masturbation plays a big role. It gives you the chance to explore your own body and experiment without the pressure or expectations from someone else. You don\u2019t need to feel ashamed about what you\u2019re doing or how you look. It\u2019s about giving yourself the freedom to discover.<\/p>

\"And let\u2019s not forget the idea that once you\u2019re in a committed relationship, you shouldn\u2019t need to masturbate anymore\"<\/p><\/blockquote>

Overcome the Shame<\/b><\/b><\/h2>

Masturbation and shame often go hand in hand (pun intended), perhaps even more than partner sex. There are so many myths that feed into this shame. Think of things like: \u201cIf you do it too much, you\u2019ll go blind,\u201d or \u201cYou\u2019ll grow hair on your palms.\u201d Then there\u2019s the belief that women rarely masturbate, while men do\u2014but not too much, because then it\u2019s a problem.<\/p>

And let\u2019s not forget the idea that once you\u2019re in a committed relationship, you shouldn\u2019t need to masturbate anymore, or that it\u2019s even considered cheating. While, of course, you decide your own boundaries, many of these ideas come from outdated societal norms.<\/p>

Masturbation is completely normal, and more importantly, it\u2019s healthy. It helps you get to know your body better, provides relaxation, and can even help you sleep. Why shouldn\u2019t masturbation be considered a form of self-care, just like exercise or meditation?<\/p>

\"Let masturbation become your new form of yoga\u2014focused, compassionate, and mindful\"<\/p><\/blockquote>

Try New Ways of Masturbating<\/b><\/b><\/h2>

Why change a winning team, right? Well, there are several reasons to try something new. Many people learned to masturbate from a place of shame, which taught them to get it over with as quickly as possible. While there\u2019s nothing wrong with that, it can be rewarding to take your time and focus more on the experience.<\/p>

By masturbating slowly and mindfully, you can learn to delay your orgasm, which can be helpful for concerns around premature ejaculation. Plus, trying new things can be fun\u2014use toys, play with your senses, or explore different parts of your body.<\/p>

Really take the time for yourself. Let masturbation become your new form of yoga\u2014focused, compassionate, and mindful. Plan dates with yourself or with each other, and masturbate alone or together. This way, you strengthen the connection with your own body, and ultimately, with others as well.<\/p>

Do you need help overcoming your shame, want to learn more about masturbation for a better sex life, or have other concerns? Feel free to reach out<\/a> or book a free intake session<\/a>, and I\u2019ll see how I can help you.<\/p><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Wanneer we het hebben over ons seksleven, voor zover we daar \u00fcberhaupt over praten, maar dat terzijde. We denken dan al snel aan seks met anderen. Wat we vaak vergeten, is dat voor velen van ons de meeste seks plaatsvindt met onszelf. Natuurlijk is dit niet voor iedereen zo; sommige mensen masturberen helemaal nooit, en […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":661,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"om_disable_all_campaigns":false,"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0,"_uf_show_specific_survey":0,"_uf_disable_surveys":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[4,29,32,31,28],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-653","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-blog","category-mannen","category-vrouwen","category-zelfzorg","category-zin-in-seks"],"aioseo_notices":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/seksulogisch.nl\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/653","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/seksulogisch.nl\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/seksulogisch.nl\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/seksulogisch.nl\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/seksulogisch.nl\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=653"}],"version-history":[{"count":8,"href":"https:\/\/seksulogisch.nl\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/653\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":664,"href":"https:\/\/seksulogisch.nl\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/653\/revisions\/664"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/seksulogisch.nl\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/661"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/seksulogisch.nl\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=653"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/seksulogisch.nl\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=653"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/seksulogisch.nl\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=653"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}