“A mirror only works if you open your eyes. Even then you have to understand what’s inside.” – Corey Taylor
For me, this quote is very fitting when it comes to effective coaching and therapy. External help only works if your motivation comes from within. Of course, you receive all the help and tools you need to move forward, but ultimately you have to take action yourself. You need to look within yourself for the reasons, backgrounds, and solutions. Coaches and therapists do nothing more than guide you in this quest.
But why is intrinsic motivation so crucial for lasting change? Do you recognize that feeling of being stuck in a pattern, even when you know change is needed? Have you ever thought about where your motivation truly comes from?
The Importance of Intrinsic Motivation
Intrinsic motivation comes from within, driven by personal satisfaction and interests, rather than external rewards or pressure. This type of motivation is essential for sustainable behavior change. As Viktor Frankl said: “When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves.” This not only emphasizes the importance of intrinsic motivation but also of critically examining yourself and your behavior. Something that coaches and therapists can certainly help with.
My first real therapy session was an eye-opener, although it took a while for me to see it.
Obstacles to Intrinsic Motivation
When I look at myself, I also remember a time when I struggled to change an old habit. I knew I needed help but didn’t know how to get it. My first real therapy session was an eye-opener, although it took a while for me to see it. The therapist had a different view on emotions and the brain than I did. Although I didn’t understand it at the time, he eventually turned out to be right.
Even though we both did our best, there was little progress in my process. Only after I opened myself up to other ideas, was I able to see things differently. Ultimately, another therapist turned out to be a better match, but this experience helped me to look at myself in an open-minded way, something that still helps me every day.
The path to lasting change indeed begins with yourself. But that doesn’t mean you have to do it alone.
Practical Tips for Strengthening Intrinsic Motivation
1.Identify Your Core Values: What is truly important to you? Write these down and think about how they can contribute to the changes you want to make.
2.Set Personal Goals: Make sure your goals align with your intrinsic motivation. Ask yourself: Why do I want to make this change?
3.Reflect Regularly: Take time to think about your progress and your motivation. What is going well? What can be improved?
4.Seek Support: Talk to someone you trust about your goals and motivation. This can be a friend, family member, coach, or therapist.
You Don’t Have to Do It Alone
The path to lasting change indeed begins with yourself. But that doesn’t mean you have to do it alone. Coaches and therapists like myself are here to help you get started and guide you in your quest. We offer a listening ear and provide practical tools to get started. All you need to bring is the motivation ;)
Contact me for a free intake session. Together, we can work on your goals and the intrinsic motivation needed to achieve them.